book
Book Musings
Linking Around

The Latest With Me: Book Musings and More

A book is not a light undertaking. My first, Silent Sorority, took nearly five years to come together. Silent Sorority will mark its 10-year anniversary in a few short weeks. It became available April 18, 2009. In honor of that milestone, I’ll post some of the heart-felt responses I’ve received from readers around the world […]

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childless
Linking Around
Tapestry of Voices

Childless Not by Choice: A Conversation with Civilla Morgan

Childless not by choice (CNBC) is a community I never expected to join.  For many years I didn’t even know this vibrant community existed. However, what I did know 12 years and 8 days ago is this: I was in pain. On my best days I struggled mightily. The worst? I reeled. Imagine a stormy […]

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infertile
Changing Perceptions
Different Than I Expected
Psychology

The Joy of Being an Infertile* Woman

Word swap (inserting infertile or childless to replace other words) has long been my way to make a point about the perils of tribalistic thinking. It’s amusing and informative to highlight one’s myopic perspective. Further, the exercise can reveal insights applicable to other tribes or communities. In this latest example, an author asserts age confers […]

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Another Perspective
Pop Culture

An idea for Michelle Obama: Use 2019 bully pulpit to convey IVF risks, realities

Michelle Obama can help educate her audiences and followers about the reality of IVF and its risks.

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darkness
Different Than I Expected
Linking Around

Darkness Musings, Lessons Learned

Darkness comes ever earlier this time of year. It’s arrival — shrinking our days bit by bit — makes an already busy end of year seem even more frenetic. Yet, blackness also delivers stillness and focus. I reflected on this further following a yoga class at mid-day this week. Late autumn sunlight streamed through the […]

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Private Life
Movies
Pop Culture

Private Life Portrays Infertility Complexities, IVF Agony

Private Life breaks new ground by not flattening or sugar coating IVF. This film instead presents a multi-faceted story complete with the hellish, inhumane clinic experience and callous staff. Every ounce of the indignity that accompanies IVF is here to see. You will realize moments into Private Life that Tamara Jenkins, the writer and director […]

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News Reports and Studies

Fertility Clinics Draw New Scrutiny

Fertility clinics have operated with impunity for 40 years. New reporting, though, raises issues about their business motives and commitment to patient well-being. If you’d asked me 12 years ago, will the headline “Fertility Clinics Under Fire” ever run on the cover of an international women’s magazine, my answer would likely have been: What, Why? […]

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childless
Changing Perceptions
Fortitude

Childless is a word I detest

Childless. While there is not one thing I like about this word, I am supportive of those who want to draw attention to the social issues surrounding it. What’s behind my dislike of the word? First of all, it comes loaded with baggage.  Unkind stereotypes abound. I could find no evidence of the word ‘childful’ […]

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Book Musings
Strength Personified

21 Miles: Reconciling Grief, Love and Fear

21 Miles not only held my attention (no small feat in today’s distraction-addled environment), it fed my heart and nurtured my soul. 21 Miles recounts the story of Jessica Hepburn‘s valiant efforts to both swim the English Channel and answer whether “motherhood makes you happy” or whether “you can have a fulfilling life without children.” […]

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Dark side of IVF
News Reports and Studies

Dark side of IVF comes into focus 40 years later

Editor’s Note: I researched and wrote this piece, As dark side of IVF slowly comes into focus, even more transparency is needed, to coincide with the 40th anniversary of IVF. My thanks to the editorial team at STAT, the Boston Globe Media health site for publishing it. Excerpt: I was 15 in 1978 when Louise […]

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