You’re The Author of Your Own Life

You’re The Author of Your Own Life

The life as a book metaphor isn’t new, but it does provide a novel way to infuse some creative license and fresh thinking into what can sometimes feel like stuff happening around and to you. I encourage those wrestling with what comes next to embrace the idea of becoming the author of your own life. At the same time you’re contemplating your own existence and character development, you can also observe more closely those around you and their life story construction. It’s never been easier to do what with all the online forums, blogs…

Not Having Children After Infertility ‘An Assault to Identity’

Not Having Children After Infertility ‘An Assault to Identity’

Women who experience infertility and do not gone on to parent get short shrift not only in society but in research. They are left to cope without much needed support or understanding. This is made all the more difficult amid the deification of mothers. That’s why I’m pleased today to share an online discussion with the author of a dissertation that breaks ground and shines the spotlight on a community of women who for too long have been overlooked. The newly published research, Recovery from Traumatic Loss: A Study of Women Living…

Be A Part of Research History

Be A Part of Research History

Updated 4/27/11: The research study’s author comments below… How many of you once bounced around looking for someone — anyone — with counseling credentials who knew even a smidgen about what you were going through?  Someone who actually heard you when you explained your dogged pursuit of parenthood…and now your need for a bit of guidance as you pivot to a life without children? Let’s see a show of hands. Not surprised in the least. That’s what led one therapist — after her own experience with infertility and, in particular,…

The Globe and Mail Reports on Failed Fertility Treatments, Disenfranchised Grief

The Globe and Mail Reports on Failed Fertility Treatments, Disenfranchised Grief

“Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him.” — Aldous Huxley When I started blogging from my kitchen several years ago about coming to terms with infertility, I never fathomed my experience would end up in a major national daily like Canada’s The Globe and Mail: When Couples Come To Terms with Infertility. It was in finding the courage to openly discuss such a private and painful experience that I’ve discovered new connections, and an understanding that was once…

When Barren is Fruitful

When Barren is Fruitful

Today’s fertile women have yesterday’s infertile women to thank for the development of the mighty Pill.* That’s right. Our barren peeps have apparently had quite the societal impact. I learned about the Pill’s paradoxical beginning in a recent Time cover story. In researching the Pill’s consequences, writer Nancy Gibbs notes that in 1952 the country’s pre-eminent infertility specialist was a Harvard-trained physician named John Rock. About him she writes: “…A devout Catholic with five children and 19 grandchildren, Rock had made it his mission to help barren women have babies….