Guest Post: Never Being Called Mommy

Guest Post: Never Being Called Mommy

The latest contributor to A Fresh Start is Stephanie. I first came across her writing on More.com. A few emails later she invited me to join her on a radio segment where we both discussed our respective experiences coming to terms with infertility. In this piece, Stephanie shares her story and sheds some light on “disenfranchised grief” and where she found new strength.  You can read still more stories from strong women in this blog’s Tapestry of Voices category. * * * * “You’re both identical twins?! Wow! How many…

Good Skin, Bad Eyes, Worse Eggs, Fitness … Improving!

Good Skin, Bad Eyes, Worse Eggs, Fitness … Improving!

One of the most gratifying aspects of blogging is the ability to share perspectives on topics that rarely (if ever) get discussed at work or socially or, well, anywhere in real life. Better still, our online conversations reach across continents, oceans and time zones. The fourth guest post in our Tapestry of Voices originates in the land Down Under. Carmel is a long-time Coming2Terms reader.  She lives in Australia and has recently moved into a challenging role in the community service sector in an attempt to find meaningful work outside…

We Have to Believe It to See It

We Have to Believe It to See It

Editor’s Note: In the days following The New York Times profile about my experience “Facing a Life Without Children When it Isn’t by Choice,” I heard from women and men from around the world. Among those who reached out to me was Dr. Wendy Rogers who, it turned out, lived just a few miles away. We arranged to meet for lunch — the first of many. She’s since become a mentor, a big sister who has helped me to understand and appreciate how to turn a struggle into a source of…

Curing My Tunnel Vision

Curing My Tunnel Vision

This guest post comes from Christina Gombar, a prize-winning author of fiction, memoir and literary criticism. Her voice is one in a rich tapestry of voices belonging to women who have found themselves in the clutches of the fertility industry, as well as in the unhappy position of being made to feel a “dud” for not achieving motherhood. She has made a new and satisfying life, as many of us are now attempting to do, amid a society that doesn’t seem to know how to celebrate women who are not…

The Power of Choice

The Power of Choice

Our first guest post of the New Year comes from Dr. Bad Ass, a Wyoming-based professor who is a long-distance hiker, a secret Harry Potter fanatic, and “mother” to one (aged) cat and one (young) dog. She includes in her email signature this Eleanor Roosevelt quote: “You gain strength, courage, and confidence, by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”   Damn Polyp! The week before Christmas, I had a hysteroscopy. Fun times, right? So,…