Reader Mail Around the Globe: Discovery, Validation, Comfort

Reader Mail Around the Globe: Discovery, Validation, Comfort

I’m a bit jet lagged after flying across the United States. The travel part was easy. Now the challenge lies in what to say in my acceptance speech at the RESOLVE Night of Hope event on Tuesday evening. I’m allowed one minute and thirty seconds. That’s not much time to thank the international community of women who feel as close to me as sisters. You can be sure I’ll be thinking about each and everyone one of you as I nervously make my way to the podium. Meanwhile, I want…

Joseph Campbell Meets Anne of Green Gables

Joseph Campbell Meets Anne of Green Gables

Some weeks are routine and barely rate a mention. The people look the same. Conversations cover the usual territory. No insights … And then this week. It’s been positively trippy with insights and validations of our ‘truth.’ I’ve had a steady stream of conversations and emails — from Finland to Rhode Island to Southern California — prompting one revelation after another. I also had the pleasure of another face-to-face meeting with one of our sorority last night — all of which led me on a kaleidoscopic memory trip of my…

In The Company of Women

In The Company of Women

Is it any wonder women who have struggled with infertility have difficulty finding peace or feeling accepted? Sheesh! The drubbing my people took in The New York Times Motherlode comments last weekend was brutal. (Warning: some truly hateful thoughts — and many of these came from parents!? Just what kind of example are they setting?) I think we might be ready for a group hug — at a minimum some validation and a grounding in why the nastier comments can cut so deeply. As any observer of human behavior knows…

Speaking a Common Language

Speaking a Common Language

Spring can bring unique and difficult encounters, as outlined by Lucy, a long-time blog reader from a country in Eastern Europe. I remember the first comment she made, and the instant connection we felt despite the miles and potential language barriers. Some experiences transcend ordinary words or lead to their own language and understanding. Fortunately, she speaks English fluently and shares these thoughts with us today: I am the girl from page 151 of Pamela’s wonderful book. I’m not mentioned by name, but by country. Slovenia.  (I was so excited…

Redefining Yourself (and Friendships)

Redefining Yourself (and Friendships)

Our latest guest post comes from Barbie. Longtime readers will remember her as a central player in a previous post from Coming2Terms. Her sister-in-law wrote about how she and her husband were trying to help those in Barbie’s life comprehend the long-standing difficulties associated with infertility. Here’s more from Barbie herself as she takes steps to redefine herself and her friendships. The quote she includes on her Facebook page comes from Joseph Campbell: “We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life…