Coming2Terms Blog

blog headerAt 29 I learned I might have some infertility issues. For the next 11 years I tried a range of methods and treatments to conceive. You name it, I tried it. When it became evident that no amount of “trying” would produce a baby, my husband and I reluctantly got off the infertility treatment roller coaster. In February 2007 I began the blog Coming2Terms to give voice to what it’s like to live with infertility in a fertile world. It led to the book Silent Sorority,  available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble and many other online stores.

The Coming2Terms blog and what led me to create it became the basis for a feature in The New York Times.

5 thoughts on “Coming2Terms Blog

  1. McKenzie

    I just heard about your blog and looking forward to reading more. I am 35 and have literally been through the “fertility ringer” a week ago they removed my fillopian tubes and so IVF is our last hope. I am angry, devastated, sad, etc. For years I have been told so many different things and spent so much money on fertility that I feel like giving up the hope of conceiving a child.

  2. Marjie

    Dear Pam,
    I finished reading your book yesterday. I could not stop reading it, and finished it within a couple of days. It was such a wonderful experience to finally feel that I was not the only person in the world who thinks and feels the same way about infertility. I had been so frustrated at the world for so many years, and for the lack of compassion from people and for the terrible damage that stereotypes have brought to our humanity. That we as women have no value if we are not married and have children by a certain age. Your book gave me the strength to make decisions, to set deadlines, and to make sure I do not stop living the beautiful life I have, and that I have put on hold for all these past years. I really wish one day we will live in a world in where infertility is not a taboo and in where us infertile are no longer blamed, left alone and misunderstood. A world that is all inclusive and that it doesn’t value women for fitting in the stereotypes of society. Thank you so much for becoming our voice.

    1. Pamela Tsigdinos

      Dear Marjie,
      So very happy that you found a sense of validation! I craved that same thing so very much once — and like you — felt reinvigorated when I found it. There is nothing so powerful as knowing that we are understood. I wish you much success moving forward. I look forward to hearing about where your beautiful life takes you. xo, Pamela Jeanne

  3. Vicki

    Thank you! I recently discovered your book & blog and I feel a sense of relief that I belong to a group of women who understand my struggle.

    We didn’t go through the infertility roller coaster as long as most, we had a later start (married later in life) and a set back with infidelity (the two I-words in my life). But I made it, so now what? Finding your book on acceptance and moving on came at the right time. Thank you!

    1. Pamela Tsigdinos

      Dear Vicki,
      You are definitely among those who understand your struggle. As I’ve said many times there is nothing more validating than being understood. So glad you are moving ahead. xo, Pamela Jeanne

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