Betty Ford Taught Me To Confront Stigma Head On

Betty Ford Taught Me To Confront Stigma Head On

“It was like going to a party you’re terrified of, and finding out to your amazement that you’re having a good time.” That’s how Betty Ford, who passed away today at 93, described her life in the White House during one of the most turbulent times in U.S. history. I was 10 years old when she became First Lady. I didn’t appreciate until I was older how much she influenced my life. She didn’t shy away from her struggles; she talked openly about them. I read some of the coverage…

Take Back Your Power and Identity

Take Back Your Power and Identity

  I’ve always admired those who grow and give back after a life-changing experience. Take Lisa Manterfield, for instance. She’s channeled her talent and energy into writing and community building for women who are unintentionally childless. I had the pleasure of meeting her in person in February. She expressed “a single-minded vision to help women like herself who have struggled through infertility and come out the other side.” Her latest endeavor kicks off in southern California next month — June 26 to be exact. Lisa, whose smile is as big…

Who Shapes History? We Do

Who Shapes History? We Do

    Is it already the second Sunday in May? It may be that I’ve simply been too busy to notice, or that I’ve reached a new state of zen. Either way, I thought it was important to take a moment from my packing to highlight a story that my better half had waiting next to my cup of coffee this morning. The San Jose Mercury News print edition contained a story titled,”Taking Mother’s Day Back.” In it, the reporter shares the genesis of this day — an antiwar protest…

Reader Mail Around the Globe: Discovery, Validation, Comfort

Reader Mail Around the Globe: Discovery, Validation, Comfort

I’m a bit jet lagged after flying across the United States. The travel part was easy. Now the challenge lies in what to say in my acceptance speech at the RESOLVE Night of Hope event on Tuesday evening. I’m allowed one minute and thirty seconds. That’s not much time to thank the international community of women who feel as close to me as sisters. You can be sure I’ll be thinking about each and everyone one of you as I nervously make my way to the podium. Meanwhile, I want…

Sorority Smorgasbord

Sorority Smorgasbord

Floaty, muddle-headed, dazed. That pretty well describes me today, compliments of a sinusitis, decongestants and irregular sleep. Yet, being the type-A, gotta be productive, restless kind of gal that I am, I hatched an action plan: Surf, browse and catalog. Fortunately, it requires little in the way of exertion, minimal brain function and serves a purpose both today and in the future. This won’t be exhaustive by any means but it’s a start. I give you the beginnings of the Sorority Blogger directory – many written under pseudonyms or first…

Getting Ready for Prime Time

Getting Ready for Prime Time

A raw set of ideas preoccupied me as my oatmeal grew cold. I focused all my attention on the computer screen hoping the blinking cursor would magically lead me to the right metaphors or punchy soundbytes. I’ve been sleeping fitfully lately while my subconscious busily searches for a set of ideas that can be shaped and packaged for mainstream consumption. Most are discarded. They can’t be too abstract, too trite or too heavy.  And by all means, they can’t seem in any way preachy, snarky, bitter or shrill. The angle…

We Have to Believe It to See It

We Have to Believe It to See It

Editor’s Note: In the days following The New York Times profile about my experience “Facing a Life Without Children When it Isn’t by Choice,” I heard from women and men from around the world. Among those who reached out to me was Dr. Wendy Rogers who, it turned out, lived just a few miles away. We arranged to meet for lunch — the first of many. She’s since become a mentor, a big sister who has helped me to understand and appreciate how to turn a struggle into a source of…

Thriving After the Storm Passes

Thriving After the Storm Passes

When you’re in the middle of a vicious storm, survival is all you can think about. It’s only when the seas are calm and the clouds break that we learn what we’re really made of… As Emily writes in her latest post, Storm Clouds and Strength: “It’s amazing how much one could draw strength at times when it’s needed most. Early 2009 was definitely one of those times. What I can’t understand is how strength can come in many different forms; especially at times when it seems as if things…